
Parenthood is not easy. And yes, you give things up you wish you didn't have to. But for me, that was only half the story.

Being a great parent means we find ways to honor our other parts.

2020 is going to be different.

This is my year to sleep when I can. To give myself grace, always. To embrace the mess.

I am the always-on-call parent. And if I miss any of it, if I slip up, that's all on me, too.

I don't think I will ever understand the notion that crying is something only women do.

Go in with the mantra, 'I'm going to choose joy over judgment,'" Ziegler says.

I've been deep in the trenches of motherhood for six years. I had three kids in a short amount of time. Pregnancy, postpartum, breastfeeding, identity crisis, repeat, repeat, repeat. There's been so much trial and error. So much learning and growing. I've been winging it, doing my best to figure things out as I go. After all, how else can you walk this journey?

You may not have thought so, but I deserved to be there just as much as you did. And so did my baby.

I am wholly myself and wholly a mother but I am neither just a mom nor just myself any longer.

Becoming a SAHD has completely changed who I am.

We're doing good even when we feel like we may not be.

2. Don't be afraid to do nothing.

He was the personification of kindness in a world that needs more of it.

Ironically, striving to be the perfect mom made me a worse mom.

How do you silence that voice? Where do you go to remind yourself of your worth, while you're reminding everyone else—your kids, your partner, your friends—of theirs?

Sometimes it's scary.

Becoming a mother changed her body, but more importantly it changed the way she saw it.

I was very fortunate to grow up alongside my child, lucky to have him anchor me to make choices that were better than the ones I was making for myself alone.