It is easy (entirely too easy) to look at ourselves as the lesser version of our reality. We can be our biggest critics and shamers. Our own worst enemies.
Despite my wish for a personal life, my children have always remained my number one priority, and I refuse to loosen my grip on that, to compromise their emotional security so I can meet my own (or someone else's) selfish needs.
I realize now, firsthand, more facets of my mother's love for me. I viscerally understand the sleepless nights, the aches and pains, worries and unrelenting devotion even in the face of great challenge.
These women, open and generous, were unaware that their input was shaping my views on what it meant to be a mother. Their example, their work schedules, their parenting styles and reflections, helped me develop my own expectations and desires around motherhood. I listened to their advice and tucked it away, hoping that one day I would have the experience to understand what being someone's mom really felt like.
Plus phrases that can help prevent a tantrum. Are you feeling a little overwhelmed? (If so, we get it, mama!) We see you and all the work you're putting in, and we think you are rocking it, even if it doesn't always feel like it in the moment. So whether you are dealing with tantrums, extra responsibilities or just trying to make it to bedtime, know that we are on your side and we are blown away by all you do. P.S. Shout-out to Ashley Graham for keeping it real when it comes to postpartum. Plus, don't miss these baby names predicted to be the top 20 names in 2020.
The truth is, no matter how old my children are, no matter how independent the big ones get, no matter how "put together" I may appear, I humbly share that I am not always managing this very well all on my own. Please know I still need you.
Potty training has taught me a huge lesson on patience. Patience to be present, to pay attention to what is right in front of me. To be encouraging, to not rush the process, to not place expectations on timing or play the comparison game we often play as mothers.
