essays

Formula-feeding moms don’t need breastmilk advice right now

Suggesting that moms should “just breastfeed” ignores their own mental, physical and emotional needs.

The great baby bust of 2022: why moms are deciding not to have more kids

From medical to financial concerns—the largest percentage of millennial and Gen Z moms ever are saying they don't plan to have more children.

I complain a lot about youth sports but I’m going to miss them

Even as I sit in my folding chair watching my kids sport du jour, I can feel myself missing these days. 

To the dads without fathers on Father’s Day

If you are fathering without your father, never forget that your children are blessed to have you. They are your reason. And you have a monumental role in shaping them into kind and respectable humans.

I refuse to be a martyr for motherhood

I refuse to prioritize the sacrifices of motherhood over the joys. And there are so many joys.

The case for ‘staying home’ with kids

It’s not a life sentence.

Motherhood is having superpowers—but knowing they won’t last forever

Because what you have in this beautiful, messy, mommy phase is something that only lasts a short while–before time and maturity sweep it away in a quick, overwhelming tidal wave.

America runs on mothers’ sacrifice—and it’s not OK

For too long mothers have been asked to nurture in a society that does not nurture us back.

To my second child: Our time will come

When my oldest son begins to spread his wings and fly further away from home base, I will be left with my youngest son. Those magical one-on-one experiences I had with my firstborn, before his brother arrived, will be paid back in full. 

How to have a positive birth experience with a C-section

Together with my doctor, we created a plan for my C-section to become the birth experience I wanted it to be. 

To my kids on Mother’s Day: Thank you for all of it, but here’s what I really want

Kids, I love you to the moon and back a thousand times over, but this year, just so you know, here's what I really want.

Why I refer to myself as a ‘single-lone mother’ instead of a ‘single mother’

Single motherhood refers to very different realities and a vast range of life experiences, which is why I refer to myself as a single-lone mom.

This mama’s message on becoming a mom of two will have you in your feelings

And once again, my lenses will need to be adjusted as I evolve into this new journey of Motherhood. Just as they’ll need adjusting every day from here on out, as my heart grows twofold.

To my husband: Thank you for showing me a love that our child will remember

Because we are raising our child to be one more kind and compassionate person that the world has to offer. And through the way that we love each other, we are reassuring him that love is a powerhouse.

Mothers’ Day grief: What this day means when you’ve lost your own mom

To all the mamas who have lost their mamas.

PSA: No, you cannot touch my baby without my permission

Babies—as adorable as they are—are not public property.

Motherhood feels lonelier than ever

Motherhood is lonely, but it doesn’t have to be. We need to keep showing up for each other—and ourselves.

Getting rid of my kids’ clutter makes me a better mom

Clutter has a way of setting off my mom rage in a way that few things do.

Reframing Mother’s Day: How an open adoption changed my views on motherhood

I know I am the most fortunate person in the fact that I gained a daughter and a co-mother, and they are both amazing people that I love. 

What I want you to know about Mother’s Day after miscarriage

Miscarriage, until it happens to you, is an experience nearly impossible to describe. And after? After, it's the only thing we can think about.