Here are the self-care items you desperately need right now

Self care is not enough, but with the news, the ongoing pandemic and just life, it can't hurt to self-pamper to make the world feel less heavy.

By Motherly Editors and Sara Goldstein November 2, 2020

This week has felt like a month. Between the debate , Chrissy Teigen’s heartbreaking news and now with President Trump tweeting that he and Melania have tested positive for COVID-19 it’s hard to not feel overwhelmed. On top of that, we are still in a never ending historical pandemic, people are still losing their jobs, there’s an election hours away and moms, well, we are at the end of our rope. Yes, motherhood is political , and no, self care is not enough to fix burn out , but if all you need right now is to turn off your phone and cozy up to a soft blanket because you’ve had enough, I hear you. Hard same. So we picked some stuff for you to buy and pamper yourself. No regrets, we all deserve some self-love right now.

Here are things that will make you feel hugged:

A plant

THE SILL Marble Queen Pothos

Before you think ” another living thing for me to take care of?” this plant is safe for both human babies and also furry babies and needs very low maintenance as long as you have it in medium to bright light. It will filter the air in your house and just brighten any space.

$36

A weighted blanket

SUNDAY CITIZEN Crystal Weighted Blanket

“Weighted blankets put gentle pressure on your body to make you feel safe, comforted and relaxed,” according to this product’s description and, honestly, I’m sold. I sleep with one every single night and it’s helped me with postpartum insomnia. 10/10 recommend.

$259

A restorative oil

ESKER Clarifying Oil

This oil repairs and restores skin that’s suffered from daily wear and tear and environmental stressors. And boy, have there been stressors, huh?

$40

A robe

It’s perfect for rolling out of bed and onto the front porch with a good book or slinging pancakes for your hungry crew, or you know, hiding from reality under the covers… Whichever you might prefer.

$126

Icelandic bath salts

Nourishing SPA of ICELAND Bath Salt

Just because you can’t travel to Iceland right now doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be enjoying their luxury spa products. Fill your tub, throw some of these bath salts in, close your eyes and pretend you are soaking in a tub in overlooking the fabulous views of the amazing country Iceland is. Plus these will help keep your skin healthy and beautiful.

$34

A sound machine

YOGASLEEP Dohm Connect Sound Machine

A sound machine can help both kids and adults fall asleep. Go ahead and get one for your room right now so you can drown out middle of the night thoughts like When will this all end? or How is it October already? or just general existential dread.

$70

A silk pillow case

HILL HOUSE HOME Sisi Silk Pillowcase

Laying your head on this luxury at the end of another year-long day is nice mini dose of pampering. And the benefits carry over into the waking hours too—a silk pillowcase will keep your hair and your skin looking fabulous. Who cares if you’re not actually leaving the house?

$85

CBD + melatonin supplements

Yesterday wellness cbd

Maybe you could use a little help quieting your brain when you put your head on that pillow. I’ve been taking these CBD + melatonin softgels for the past few weeks and while it’s asking a lot of any supplement to even make a dent in my psyche some evenings, I can say they do help me turn it off for a little while.

$65

A face mask

BLISS Rose Gold Face Mask

Lately I don’t even have the energy to keep up my skin care routine, and these masks from Bliss have been the savior I need right now. Easy to put on, funny to look at when wearing and most importantly, leaves your skin glowing.

$4

Color depositing mask

Moroccan Oil HIBISCUS COLOR DEPOSITING MASK

Quarantine hair does not need to be boring (or frizzy!). This hair mask will brighten up your day by depositing some fun color in your previously lightened strands.

$28

MAMA necklace

KINN STUDIO Dear Kaia Initial Necklace - MAMA

Bling is always on the treat-yo-self menu. And this one celebrates the title that truly matters.

$360

Raising kind humans bracelet

Sontakey raising kind humans bracelet

You can’t control everything, mama—and that’s okay. Focus on what you can control and the future looks brighter already.

$35

Nube Ribbed Long Cardigan

Sunday Citizen nube long ribbed cardigan

Wearing a robe all day would feel a bit like giving up. But call it a cardigan and BAM! totally acceptable. This one is so soft and delicious you’re not going to want to, anyway.

$120

A comfy sweatshirt

Brooklinen Sterling Sweatshirt

If your look is more casual and sporty, this sweatshirt is made for you. It’s soft, it’s comfy and it will keep you looking put together even when hanging out on your couch.

$65

Ice cream

jeni's ice cream

It’s ice cream. Delivered to your doorstep. Grab a spoon, a fork or a shovel and make a night of it.

$68

A manicure kit

Halo Hand DARK DESIRES COLOR KIT

Just because we are still in the middle of a pandemic doesn’t mean that your nails shouldn’t be looking amazing. With this at home nail polish kit you can decompress by painting your nails (and toenails!) in trendy colors.

$52

Linen sheets

Parachute linen sheet set

I’ve never been more motivated to make my bed a hotel-level of satisfying than this year. I want to crawl in every night (or afternoon—don’t judge me) and feel cocooned in cozy. I’ve never been a sheets snob either, but this linen set has me swooning—and seems to get better each time you wash it.

$189

Inner Piece puzzle Bijou Karman illustration

Inner Piece puzzle

Remember the great puzzle rush of March 2020? Well, now that it’s getting cold again and we’re still being warmed by the glow of a dumpster fire, it seems time to for them to once again take up residence on the dining table. There’s something about solving low stakes problems that’s oh-so-comforting. Bonus points for this one looking the way we all feel.

$30

Apothepure Tuscan sun candle

Apothepure Tuscan sun candle

Chances are, you won’t be warming yourself by the rays of the Tuscan Sun anytime soon. But a girl can dream, can’t she?

$22

Bathing Culture body wash

Mind and Body Wash Refillable Glass

Let me put it this way: this body wash is the best thing that happened in my 2020.

$35

Lanolips 101 ointment

The Original 101 Ointment Multipurpose Superbalm

This superbalm holds 200% of its weight in moisture and will have your lips (or cuticles, or elbows, or any body part really) feeling lovely almost immediately. It’s safe to use on newborns and you can even use to keep your nipples feeling great in between breastfeeding sessions.

$16.95

‘Stay Safe’ Face Mask

Ahida corealle stay safe mask

It’s rough out there, friend. Take care and stay safe.

$30

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