Home / News / Viral & Trending Mom’s viral TikTok perfectly nails how we all feel about the endless school holiday to-dos TikTok "I don't know who needs to hear this..." TBH, all of us. By Alexandra Frost December 8, 2023 TikTok Rectangle If you feel like you are drowning in oh-so-sweet and spirited (but stressful!) requests from your kidsâ school, daycare, activities and more as the holidays approach, you arenât alone. There are pajama days, holiday parties, themed character dress-up events, recitals and concerts, teacher gifts (oh and bus drivers and cafeteria workers and more, oh my!). Itâs beginning to look a lot like⊠a serious case of overwhelm for parents everywhere. The school holiday theme days are, to be honest, a lot. In a viral TikTok from last December, South Carolina mama, Darryl Prendergast, captured this stress perfectly in her reminder to parents everywhere that they are probably forgetting something. âI donât know who needs to hear this, but your kid has some kind of pajama wearing, winter fest book swap, secret Santa, cookie sharing, 12 days of Christmas spirit week something happening at school tomorrow that you need to get ready for!â @d_prend40 #momlife #momsindecember #momsatchristmas #momsover35 #oldmillenialmoms #momsover40club #momhumor ⏠original sound – Darryl Prendergast She waves her Starbucks around while riding in her car, with the caption across the video âYouâre welcome.â The numbers back up that sense of overwhelm you canât shake this time of year. The University of Michiganâs poll in 2021 showed 1 in 6 parents are stressed out around the holidays, and twice as many mothers than fathers report those high-stress levels. Extra holiday shopping and tasks, such as those necessary to outfit your child in a full grinch suit for the last day of school with a few daysâ notice, rank high on the list of stressors â 31% are worried about those extras. But before you write off all the activities and boycott the holidays altogether, keep in mind that overall, it ends up being âworth it,â and 96% of those surveyed ultimately call the holidays a happy time for families (they must have sent that survey on January 1!). Related: Not going anywhere on Christmas Day is the best gift I ever gave myself as a mom Mamas watching Prendergastâs TikTok as a reminder had lots to say: âme checking the calendar to see what I forgot about as the room mom,â one comments. Prendergast adds as an afterthought in the comments, âAnd PS thereâs a signup genius somewhere out there with your name on it. Go grab your item.â A teacher left in the comments that her school does a full 12-week countdown of school holiday theme days, complete with themes each day, leading up to break. Still another says, âWhy do they do this to us???!!! Like Iâm not stressing enough for the holidays!â Of course, it’s all about creating holiday memories for your kids. But there’s so much pressure to get everything “right” and not have your kid be the only one who forgot to wear pajamas or bring a packet of hot chocolate or show up an hour early to the recital. And staying up late wrapping gifts for your kidâs bestie they demanded to give presents to, or writing handwritten notes to each teacher can take a toll. Hereâs what the parents in the study also showed, luckily, is what helps those overstressed parents. Try these strategies for a bit of a breather before the next spirit day shows up: Spend some time alone (ha!) 71% found that helpful. Listen to music (55%, but just not Christmas Baby Shark one more time) Nearly half felt better with exercise Attending a religious service or praying helped just under a third of respondents Get some help! One in four felt better after enlisting help from others And when all else fails, some parents send their kids to sleepovers or turn to junk food (blame the elf for stealing their candy canes)! Weâd say try to keep in mind the reason for the season, and see the joy in our kidsâ faces, but first we have to check our color-coded multi-page spreadsheet calendars to see if tomorrowâs the dreaded day we need to transform our kid into a reindeer by the 8 a.m. bus pickup. A version of this story was originally published on Dec. 19. 2022. It has been updated. The latest News What parents need to know about the âglass childâ effectâand how to address it News New study shows Black women are 25% more likely to have C-sections, but why? News âPass the babyâ anxiety: Why moms are setting boundaries this holiday season News Nicole Scherzinger fought to keep Moanaâs mom aliveâand calls out Disneyâs missing moms