Woman goes on solo vacation after her husband dropped the ball on trip-planning

There likely isn’t a woman out there who wouldn’t relish the thought of a solo vacation. However, when it comes to this woman’s Reddit post, sometimes there’s more to the story than simply enjoying some alone time away from home.

She begins the post by stating that she and her husband both agreed they wanted to visit New Orleans this fall, and they also agreed they would begin planning the logistics together.

“Back in March, I told him I would plan most of it, where to go, and what to do, all he has to do was make sure he had the week off and buy the plane tickets,” she writes. “I spent the last few months researching what to do. I booked the hotel room, made reservations at places we wanted to try, I made a list of all the sites I wanted to see.”

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She says she checked in with her husband every few weeks since March to see when he was planning to buy their plane tickets. Every time she would ask him, she says he’d tell her he was waiting for the prices to “go down.”

“Three weeks ago, I reminded him again and he said he had got off of work for the days but had forgotten to get the tickets,” she continues. “He looked online and the tickets were close to $1500/ticket. He said he was going to wait some more to see if they would go down.”

Right up until last week, she continued to ask if he had purchased the tickets. He had not.

“We looked again and the prices were still high. He said he wasn’t willing to spend that much on them and asked how much money I would lose if I just canceled everything instead. He offered to have a nice staycation instead.”

The problem is, neither of them had agreed to take a “staycation.” The OP (original poster) had spent months planning out the itinerary and hotel accommodations for the trip she really wanted to go on—a trip her husband agreed to go on and also help plan.

“I told him I was not willing to cancel everything because I spent so much time planning it,” she explains. “We argued and we didn’t come to a conclusion. I wound up buying just one ticket for myself and when i flew out Saturday, I told him I was still going and he acted all surprised that I didn’t want to stay home with him. I am in New Orleans now and he is blowing up my phone saying that I am an AH for still going without him.”

The responses to her story were mostly in her favor, with a few Redditors chiming in to say they were both wrong. Some even shared their own stories about how taking separate vacations from their spouses has strengthened their marriages.

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This is one of those situations where multiple things can be true at the same time: Yes, he dropped the ball and procrastinated on something very important that he already agreed to do, and she held up her end of the bargain but went on a solo vacation that was very different from the couples’ trip they initially planned.

What do you think? Is he wrong? Is she? Either way, she’s probably enjoying a delicious beignet and some jazz music along the Mississippi River and he’s at home, angry.