Millennial parents don’t want advertisers to sell them gender stereotypes

Building brands by tearing down stereotypes

This month the CEO of Unilever, Alan Jope, took the stage at the world’s largest conference on gender equality, Women Deliver, and committed 100% of the ad spend for Unilever’s Dove Men+Care line to media representations of dads in caring roles, or what Molly Kennedy, Brand Manager for Dove Men+Care, called “positive dadvertising.”

Dove Men+Care’s commitment to positive representation of men as caregivers comes as the company is strengthening its parental leave policies and encouraging dads (both those who work for Unilever and those who don’t) to actually take any parental leave that is available to them.

The idea is that dads may be more likely to take leave if they see positive role modeling in media, which will help moms, too, because research suggests that taking paternity leave results in fathers doing more unpaid care work as their kids grow. And dads are certainly seeing more caring reflections of fatherhood in advertising, and not just from Dove Men+Care.

Changing diapers and the narrative

Budweiser just launched an ad showing step-fathers surprising their children with adoption papers, and brands like Gillette and Pampers (owned by Unilever competitor Procter & Gamble) have received a lot of attention for the way their ads are questioning traditional ideas about masculinity and fatherhood. Gillette’s stand against toxic masculinity was a viral sensation and Pampers’ spokesdad John Legend is now part of a corporate campaign to get change tables into more mens’ restrooms.

Donte Palmer— the father whose grassroots viral campaign, #squatforchange inspired Pampers’ campaign—says he’s pleased to see all this positive dadvertising, telling Motherly, “it means a lot, it’s just changing the narrative.”

He continues: “To have fathers like John Legend, who has a powerful name in his industry and a huge following, showing the world that we as fathers are the caretakers for our babies means a lot. It shows the ‘average Joe’ father that he can go to his 9 to 5 job and still come home and take care of his children.”

Dr. Michael Kehler, a professor of Masculinities Studies at the University of Calgary says he applauds these companies like Gillette, Pampers and Dove Men+Care for challenging gender roles in their advertising, as “the long-held views of masculinity that have kept men out of caring roles has been intentional and maintained by advertising agencies.”

He hopes big brands will consult with masculinities scholars for deeper insight and direction as they craft a new narrative in the media.

“More diverse portrayals, richer and complicated images of masculinity can’t help but dislodge privileged white masculinity from its perch,” he tells Motherly. “The disruption of these images and the re-writing of a narrative of complex masculinities, less linear, less simplistic, less predictable can similarly be a powerful invitation to rethink masculinities in the future.”

According to Kehler, it is incumbent on companies to show a whole spectrum of ways of being a man, but “whether or not the portrayal of adverts reflecting men in caring roles has the desired effect of men taking up unpaid work is yet to be seen.”

Walking the walk

What we have seen over the course of the last 15 years is that when big brands make big changes there can be lasting culture change.

Under dim lights in a fifth and sixth-grade classroom, 22 boys and girls are watching a short video that shows all the-behind-scenes magic that goes into making an Instagrammable selfie. When the video ends the facilitator invites questions. A student raises his hand and asks, “Does everyone really do this?”

This incredulous tween and classmates are learning about self-esteem and body confidence in their school in Vancouver, Canada, but similar presentations have taken place in more than 140 countries, because the Dove Self-Esteem Project is now the largest provider of self-esteem and body confidence education in the world.

Dove’s been doing this work since before the kids in that Vancouver classroom were even born, since its Campaign for Real Beauty launched in the early 2000s and became a controversial turning point in the way women’s bodies are presented in advertising. That campaign is often credited with creating a blueprint for modern advertising that includes more authentic and diverse body types and has brought us to a place where we’re seeing real stretch marks and postpartum bellies on underwear models.

“Dove definitely changed the conversation,” says Andrea Benoit, Adjunct Assistant Professor of Media Studies in the Faculty of Information and Media Studies at the University of Western Ontario and author of a new book on corporate philanthropy .

“There is no question that Dove opened up a space for other brands to start dipping their toes in that conversation without feeling like they were treading in uncertain or dangerous territory. Now it seems like if you’re a brand you can’t not be inclusive and accepting of diverse bodies,” Benoit tells Motherly.

According to Benoit, the continued existence and expansion of the Dove Self-Esteem Project shows that brands can use their resources for good, but she is uncomfortable with how society and governments have downloaded this kind of social responsibility onto brands like Dove to the point that corporations are providing classroom resources and presentations in schools and through non-profit organizations.

It probably shouldn’t be up to a soap company to teach self-esteem, but, at least someone is doing it. Just this month UNICEF announced a 3-year partnership with the Dove Self-Esteem Project aimed at helping girls between 10 and 18 in Brazil, India and Indonesia.

“This is a partnership that we really think can help change how girls view themselves and how the world views girls,” UNICEF’s Executive Director Henrietta Fore said at the Women Deliver conference. While UNICEF explicitly states that it doesn’t endorse any brand, the deal with Dove does suggest UNICEF views the company as a worthy philanthropic partner.

Changing the way we see ourselves

When we were kids the commercials playing on Saturday morning taught us that gender roles are confining, that boys are loud and girls are quiet. But now, you might turn on TV and see a dad changing a diaper, or flip to Cartoon Network and catch spots Dove produced with the popular kids’ show Steven Universe, which reinforce body confidence, gender equality and self-esteem rather than stereotypes.

Brands have a lot of power these days (some would argue too much power) to shape how we see ourselves, but we have more power than ever to make informed choices about the brands we support and the power to hold companies to account for their actions. According to Benoit, it’s not clear what came first: Inclusive advertising or this generation’s desire for it. But what is clear is that it is here to stay and that consumers now demand it. We expect companies to not only make good ads but do good in the world, too.

We are demanding to be seen in a way we couldn’t as kids. We’re no longer passive children absorbing messages from the television, we are participants in an exchange—both a financial transaction and a conversation about the future of society. Having a good product isn’t enough anymore. Brands have got to have a message and a purpose worth buying.