Olivia Wilde says she’s mom-shamed when she’s not with her kids: ‘I’ve never seen anyone say that about a guy’

Olivia Wilde is speaking out against the unfair treatment women get when it comes to judging how women spend their time, without their kids.

In a recent interview with Variety, the actress-turned-director brought up the scrutiny she’s faced about how much time she does or doesn’t spend with her children.

Wilde, 38, has a daughter, Daisy, 5, and a son, Otis, 8, with ex, Jason Sudeikis.

“When people see me not with my kids, it’s always ‘How dare she,'” she says. “I’ve never seen anyone say that about a guy. And if he is with his kid, he’s a f—ing hero.”

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Olivia Wilde and Jason Sudeikis are currently in a custody battle that’s been going on for quite some time. She talks about how the kids go back and forth between them. When they are with her she says she devotes all of her time to them. She doesn’t miss bedtime, she cooks breakfast in the mornings and takes them to school herself.

“They are my world,” she says, “They are my best friends.”

She continues on a side tangent about the way society treats women in general and can we just cue the slow applause now?

“Listen, I’m not asking for any sort of pity. My life is extraordinary. I’m thrilled with my life. But I do wish, for the betterment of society in general, that we would all disengage from a cycle of bullying and hatred. We’ve just lost empathy, and we just don’t give people the benefit of the doubt—specifically women. We just assume the worst from women, and I don’t know why.”

When it comes to how she’s portrayed in the media and the struggle of going through such a public breakup, she adds, “The most painful element of it has been women shaming me for making a decision that was for my own health and happiness.”

Wilde also brought up the incident in April where she was served custody papers on stage, while giving a presentation, at CinemaCon in Las Vegas. So, essentially, she was at a work event, promoting her newest project and her private family situation was thrown in her face for all of her coworkers to witness. That is not OK. And Wilde makes it a point to comment that she wasn’t the one that ended up victimized in that situation, but, rather, it’s the kids that will one day see it and be hurt by it.

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And, if the whole idea of a celebrity mom being publicly called out in regards to child custody or, really, private family matters regarding their children, is ringing any bells for you that’s probably because of the recent drama Brittney Spears has been subjected to because of her own ex.

Why is it that these working moms are getting the short end of the stick when it comes to how the media reports on their personal lives or how their ex’s are basically using their “mom-card” against them. Unfortunately, every woman I know who is also a mom has, at one time or another, been “mom-shamed” for things that I don’t think would even be note-worthy if they didn’t have kids. But, having children does not mean that you aren’t your own person or that you don’t deserve your own time.

Wilde also gives a peak into why she’s taking some time off of work right now, saying that she wants to be all-in with her kiddos.

“It became clear to me that this year was a time for me to be a stay-at-home mom,” she explains. “It was not the year for me to be on a set, which is totally all-encompassing. It was time for me to pause and devote myself to the kids when I have them.”