To the moms of one kid—from a mom of three

To the moms of ‘only’ one kid—from a mom of 3.

You guys are the real MVPs.

EVERYTHING is new.
Every day there’s a first.
Your whole life just got flipped upside down and inside out.
Every decision you make feels wrong.

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You’re just realizing that although mom instincts are strong, it doesn’t always come as naturally as you anticipated. It’s nothing like you saw in the movies.

You’re sleep deprived on a whole new level that your body has never experienced.

Your hormones are raging in a way your body has never dealt with.

You need space but you feel guilty and ungrateful when for taking even a second to yourself.

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The longer you do it, the easier it gets but the truth is—none of us are experts.

So while my life might seem hectic and busy as a mom of 3—it’s taken me this long to feel an ounce of confidence. To learn how to coparent, give myself grace and talk myself off the ledges.

The only difference between you and I is that it’s all new to you. It’s like learning any new skill. It’s not supposed to be easy or feel comfortable. The longer you do it, the easier it gets but the truth is—none of us are experts. No matter how many kids we have.

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We’re all just figuring it out as we go. Day by day.

There’s simply no comparison.

So, to every parent of one—you are incredible.

Love,
A mom of 3 who still doesn’t know what she’s doing. 🖤

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