30+ bestie gifts that will make her wish she got you something better

Glossy but not gloppy, the Lip Oil Balms from Saltair are exactly what her winter lips are craving. Between their super moisturizing abilities and the subtle hues, they’re like a little cosmetic pick-me-up.

If she’s been drowning herself in Victoria’s Secret Bare Vanilla since middle school, it’s time to upgrade. Our suggestion? Phlur’s hypnotic and rich Vanilla Skin Body Mist. Mixed with spicy notes of pink peppercorn and grounding sandalwood, it’s like the go-to gourmand’s sophisticated older sister. Just make sure she’s prepared to tell at least three people a day what scent she’s wearing–because in our experience, everyone asks.

Keys, wallet, cell phone. The Mara Neoprene Phone Sling from Dagne Dover keeps her holy trinity close at hand while keeping her hands-free. The colors are fantastic and the neoprene fabric is both chic and durable.

Whether hitting the mat or pick up line, Alo’s District Trucker Hat is the accessory we can’t stop reaching for. The fit is perfect and it ticks both gym casual and quiet luxury boxes. Win win.

For anyone in need of a cosmic compass, this gorgeously illustrated deck of cards draws on astrology, numerology and color theory to help guide the day or month ahead. They’re a great tool for self-reflection or problem-solving and always make girls’ night feel a little extra nourishing.

Made of what can only be described as heaven in faux fur form, these impossibly soft mittens from Mersea are so cozy she’ll never want to take them off. And since they have open thumb holes for texting, she kind of doesn’t have to.

With a boho vibe and luxury feel, the buttery leather sling bags from NYC-based Bolsa Nova check all the boxes. Each one is made in Florence, Italy from what is seriously the most divine leather we’ve ever laid our hands on. They’re also the perfect size for carting the essentials with room for a diaper or two if that’s how she’s rolling. Add in a detachable brass chain, an interior and exterior pocket for extra organization and a “gets better with age” sort of patina and you’ve got a gift she’ll be grateful for for years to come.

With their flower shape and mid-century color palette, these 2-in-1 incense and candle holders bring a retro vibe to any dresser or kitchen table.

Less stressing, more manifesting. Look, we know that’s a lot to ask, but we’re up for trying anything that brings a little bit of calm and focus right about now. (Because scrolling TikTok ain’t it.) A one-stop shop for collaging a vision of the life she wants, this activity book includes a step-by-step guide to manifesting, goal-setting and creating a ritual as well as 1,000+ curated images to cut out and collage. Consider your next girl’s night in activity taken care of.

If puffy eyes and dark circles are the gifts she’s looking to give away, the latest from Solawave is a gift worth splurging on. The medical-grade Eye Recovery Pro combines Red, Deep Red, Near-Infrared, and Amber Light Therapies to help reduce puffiness, fade fine lines and plump skin in just a few minutes a day. It’s super comfortable to wear and doesn’t require any extra serums or creams. And unlike things like gua sha or microcurrent devices, it’s hands-free which makes it beyond easy to slot into a morning routine. (Because honestly who has time for complex anything?)

If years of breastfeeding, hauling babies, sitting at a computer for hours on end and hunching over her phone like a human shrimp have taken a toll on her posture, the Forme Power Bra might just be her BFF. (After you, of course). The viral posture-correcting bra designed by an orthopedic surgeon earned some viral fame last spring after Taylor was spotted wearing it while training for the Eras tour.

The design, which features six varied tension fabrics, gives you that constant reminder to roll your shoulders back and down–all while giving the appearance of your most flattering sports bra. And while that might sound like a bunch of hooey, but as someone who’s worn it for countless Pilates and HIIT classes and is also “I kinked my neck by sleeping funny” years old I can tell you with 100% certainty it’s actual sorcery.

The wildly unique fragrances from Future Society are unlike anything she’s smelled before–and no, that’s not hyperbole. Each of their scents are literally crafted with the DNA of extinct flowers courtesy of the Harvard Herbarium, breathing life back into long gone florals. It’s really hard to pick a favorite since they’re all totally intoxicating, so we’d opt for this trio of best-sellers which includes Solar Canopy (a little fruity), Floating Forest (fresh and green), and Haunted Rose (mysterious and spicy).

From housing bedside baubles to making her kitchen countertop a little more stylish, we love the versatility of this acrylic tray featuring original artwork from @illucaliart. And because it’s from Society6, you’re also supporting them directly!

The travel-ready Trail Sun Shirt 02 from Hikerkind is one of those pieces she can throw in a carry-on and be ready for anything. The classic button-down style is somewhat of a wardrobe Swiss army knife. It’s got antimicrobial and moisture-wicking properties which make it great for everything from hikes to beach hangs and a silhouette that looks equally great for brunch. And even if it spends a flight balled up in her bag, the wrinkles fall right out!

For the girlfriend who’d prefer to live in the bathtub, let us introduce you to the ever-so-luxe Sofa Bath Pillow from Badesofa. The water-resistant cushion is supportive and comfy and makes any soak feel like a spa experience. It’s designed to stay in place without floating or bunching and thanks to innovative German engineering, it doesn’t get nasty or waterlogged either. Honestly, those inflatable bath pillows should be embarrassed.

Whether she’s finding her way “out of the woods” or living her “wildest dreams,” this beaded bracelet is the perfect reminder to live in the moment through all her eras. (And check out the entire Friendship Collection for more inspo!)

As the granddaughter of a woman who could have made antiquing an Olympic sport, Frankfort Candle Co. instantly caught my eye. The small, women-owned company sources vintage glassware for their hand-poured candles to create an heirloom that’s truly one-of-a-kind. Not only are the scents luxurious and dreamy, but the crackling sound of the wooden wick is a mood in and of itself. Each unique piece has been loved for generations and can be loved for generations to come. (They’ll even refill it for a small fee!) Prices vary.

There’s nothing like the smell of coconut to transport you to the sun-soaked days of a beach vacation. Gift her some TLC with a side of vacay vibes with this set from Mario Badescu which includes their coconut body scrub, body butter and–my personal favorite–spray on body oil. (It’s a dry oil that sinks right in. Dreamy!) It might smell like summer, but it’s the perfect antidote to winter skin.

From beach walks to chilly airplanes, the extra cozy Five Mile River Scarf from Dudley Stephens is like a blanket she can wear–without well, looking like she’s wearing a blanket. In fact, it looks chic AF. With its scalloped edges and sophisticated color options it’s a slam dunk gift for practically any woman on your list.

There are a bazillion bougie candles out there to choose from, so when we find one that’s so definitively out of this world, it’s almost a relief. (Decision fatigue is real.) LA-based Flamingo Estate’s best-selling Roma Heirloom Tomato Candle is fresh, uplifting and totally unexpected. It’s like standing in the garden on a warm summer night, stars ablaze above, dewy earth below. It’s grounding in the most elemental way and as fit for kitchen counters as it is bedside tables. Basically we just want to bask in this particular smell from now until forever, thank you.

This is not your grandma’s cocktail ring. Designed by the sexual wellness superstars at Unbound, this adventurous accessory is actually a vibrator in disguise. And to be honest, it packs plenty of function into its sculptural form. (Read: It’s not just a novelty gift. It’s the real deal.) It’s packed with three speeds and two patterns and a shape that’s perfect for solo or partner play. Hiding her vibe in her bedside table? Not this gal. She’s wearing it to dinner. (Oh, and it also comes in gold!)

Though her moments of zen may be few and far between, there’s no reason she can’t maximize the ones she does have. Our suggestion? The Hot & Cold Eye Mask from Ostrichpillow. Pop the gently weighted mask into the microwave or freezer and let it help relieve tension, stress and eye strain. The natural clay beads form to the face to completely block the light so she can immerse herself in that quiet space. Until someone busts into the bathroom where she’s hiding and demands snacks, of course.

For the bestie who’s working on the ultimate ear party, this gorgeous threader will be the pièce de résistance. Made in NYC and designed by vintage-inspired jeweler Erica Weiner, the 14k gold snake features a tiny diamond its head and can be worn through single or multiple holes. I just adore the daintiness which upon closer inspection says, “Go ahead. Mess around and find out.”

Is she a new mom? Yoga obsessed? Simply a person who will appreciate the most comfortable article of clothing that ever existed? This is the gift she needs.  The versatile jumpsuit with its cool drop crotch silhouette can seriously be worn for everything from warrior pose to preschool-drop off. The top is somehow magically supportive enough to forego a bra (I am not that kind of gal ever and this changed everything) but not at all suffocating. You can never go wrong with basic black, but it comes in a bunch of gorgeous colors as well.

From train commutes to long haul flights, the versatile Huzi Infinity Pillow is the travel  accessory she never knew she needed. The scarf-style design can be used in tons of different configurations to make her cozy in practically any scenario (window, aisle, face down on the seat back tray like she’s in high school all over again) and even comes in handy when snuggling at home.

A bag that multitasks as hard as she does? You got it. The sustainably-crafted Francine from No. 49 is a belt, crossbody, shoulder and clutch bag all rolled into one with a style that’s as appropriate for a night out as it is for running errands. It’s just big enough for the must-haves and thanks to a tiny bit of structure, keeps everything inside neat and tidy. (If you’ve ever managed to spend minutes rooting through a Lulu belt bag looking for a lip gloss, you feel me.) The bamboo leather exterior is durable and wipeable so it will stay looking super fresh for years to come!

We admit we’re a bit smitten with the female-founded House of Wise. Not only is their hemp organically grown on USDA Organic farms in Denver, Colorado, but their products are so easy to understand and navigate. Case in point, they offer four blends: Stress, Sleep, Strength and Sex–no glossary of terms needed. And while you can’t go wrong with any of them, the Sleep formula is my favorite. For fellow mamas who have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, these can feel like little squares of magic. The combination of 25mg of Full Spectrum hemp-derived CBD and 5mg of Melatonin help you unwind within a half hour or so, relaxing both body and mind. Even better, you wake up feeling rested without the grogginess of other sleep aids. Is there a better gift than that? I think not.

Incense isn’t exactly known for its giftable packaging but there’s always an exception! I love the glass jars of incense from Paddywax which are fabulous all the way around. The scents are strong enough to fill a room without overpowering and there’s even a convenient hole in the lid that serves as a built-in holder.

Ok, so maybe Harry Styles made it famous, but the plush striped robes from designer Ellen Van Dusen have been on my must-have list for ages. I mean, for one thing, anyone can have a plain white bathrobe. But this? This is so much more fun. The cotton fabric dries you off post shower and two generous pockets mean you can keep wearing it right through Sunday brunch. I mean, WWHD?

Keep her hands and cuticles silky soft all winter long with this divinely-scented cream from Lano. In addition to pure Aussie Lanolin, it’s packed with Vitamin E and Shea Butter to heal and protect even the most chapped skin. The fact it smells like cake is well, the icing on the cake.

You may not be yukking it up in a senior community together just yet, but there’s no reason you can’t get prepped and ready to dominate the Pickle Ball courts when you do. After all, it is the fastest growing sport. And for the best reasons–it’s super fun and pretty much anyone can play! Gift her a favorite new hobby with one of the fun doubles sets from Nettie. Not only are they the most stylish paddles out there, the female-founded company was created to spark joy and connection across generations. How much do we love that?

As an enthusiast of pretty things that make everyday living a little more elevated, I’ve coveted these Estelle wine glasses for ages. Each one is blown by hand in Poland and even with gas station wine poured inside they look impossibly chic. Might they spend 98% of time safely perched on a shelf? Yes. But that’s fine. They clearly double as an objet d’art.

Solve her cord clutter in the most chic way possible. The minimalist catch-all from Courant wirelessly charges her phone or Airpods while also giving other essentials a place to land. It’s ideal for night stands and entry ways but she should know if it’s available to the rest of her family it will be covered in playground rocks and gum wrappers in less than five minutes. (So we’re going with night stand.)

Each of the delicate pieces from Hello Adorn is handmade to order in their small Eau Claire, Wisconsin studio. I love everything but it’s their sweetly stackable rings that I can’t stop buying. Since they’re made from high quality brass coated with a layer of 14k gold, they look and wear just like styles that cost three times as much. Aside from swimming, I never take mine off and they look as good as the day they were made!

Home work out sessions sound daunting. But home stretching sessions? Sign us up. This kit from Bala includes their Hourglass Roller, 1 set of Balance Blocks, and their best-selling Play Mat. She’ll love you for the rest of her life the second she splays herself over that roller, promise.