Home / Holidays / Christmas Christmas magic is still important no matter how old your kids are BONNINSTUDIO/Stocksy As parents, we are the keeper of childhood memories. By Danielle Lacourse Vaughn Updated November 20, 2023 BONNINSTUDIO/Stocksy Rectangle Remember the way you felt? How excited you were to wake up that morning? The Christmas lights. The decorations. The smell of hot cocoa and syrupy pancakes. The sight of presents all perfectly assembled just waiting under the tree. It was as if time stood still. As if yesterday didnât happen. As if tomorrow was a promise. And regardless of your family traditions or religious affiliation, we all shared the same feeling. That it was perfect. Perfect to us. Well, now itâs our turn. Weâre The Big Guy. The maker of magic. The creator of all things Christmas. Iâm looking forward to these next eight to ten years of innocence. Of continuing these precious holiday traditions with my own children. But at the same time, I know that we are setting the bar. High. Iâm talking Instagram-perfect-meets-millennial-Martha-Stewart-high. As parents, we are the keeper of childhood memories. Traditions. Christmas magic. Yet, here I am. Hastily wrapping toys and trimming ribbons the night before the big day. And in between baking (OK, burning) Santaâs cookies and chopping carrots for the reindeer, I wonderâdoes all this really matter? Will they even remember? Related: Buy Nothing: how my local Facebook group is saving the holiday season Recently, my husband told me a story. It was about his first year coming home from college for winter break. Unbeknownst to him, it was over. There was no tree. No decorations. Nothing. It was like Christmas was just another Tuesday. And who could blame his parents? After eighteen years I suppose you think youâre done. Well, as it turns out, youâre not. The deeper I delve into my parenting role, the more I realize our job is never over. Not when theyâre eight, eighteen or apparently thirty-three. But it makes sense. As parents, we are the keeper of childhood memories. Traditions. Christmas magic. We are their forever home. My husbandâs experience makes me think about how our own children will remember the holidays. How their memories will serve as a sort of measuring stick. Was it enough? Were they happy? Will they still want to put that snitchy elf on the shelf? Buy matching Christmas pajamas like we did? Or make my grandmother’s cookies? Only time will tellâand maybe the snitchy elf. Related: Mama, I see you making Christmas magic while stretching every dollar But thereâs got to be some middle ground. To make peace with doing our best. To try. Even if it isnât Instagram-worthy. To accept that they probably wonât remember that monochromatic wrapping paper and matching ribbon. Or the amount you spent on gifts. Or the fact that the reindeer carrots were organic. Or to realize that what they will remember are those same sights, smells and sounds that you once recognized as a child. The ones that make you want to believe all over again. So, hereâs to traditions. To putting up the tree, even when theyâre off to college. To making cocoa, pancakes and cookies. To burning a few batches along the way. To holding onto a small piece of their childhood. To holding onto a small piece of your own. Hereâs to being perfect, mamaâperfect to them. Motherly Stories are first person, 500-1000 word stories, reflecting on the insights youâve experienced in motherhoodâand the wisdom youâve gained along the way. They also help other women realize theyâre not alone. Motherly Stories donât judge. Instead, they inspire other mamas with stories of meaning, hope and a realization that âyouâve got this.â If you have a story, please submit it here: https://www.mother.ly/share-your-story/ The latest Holiday Gift Guides The best tech gifts that make mom life a little easier Halloween Boo Baskets: The Halloween tradition I surprisingly donât hate Halloween Halloween can be terrifying for kids with sensory processing disorder Viral & Trending Mom goes viral for complaining about her neighborhood’s scary Halloween decorations