Look, we all know the drill: Halloween sugar rush, Christmas cookie avalanche, and just when you’ve finally pried the last candy cane from your kid’s sticky fingers—BAM. Valentine’s Day swoops in like Cupid’s sugar-coated revenge.

But here’s the thing: some of us parents (especially those of us who’ve witnessed the unholy alliance between a classroom full of third-graders and heart-shaped pixie sticks) are quietly staging a revolution. And honestly? The teachers are our secret allies in this. Because nobody—and I mean nobody—wants to manage 25 kids coming down from a candy heart high during afternoon math.

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Now, before you call me the Valentine Grinch, let me be clear: If your kid gets absolutely giddy about sharing something special with their classmates, I am HERE FOR IT. But maybe—just maybe—we can channel that giving spirit into something that won’t have other parents silently cursing our names as they fish broken plastic toys out of their washing machines.

What are some non-candy Valentine ideas?

Think seed packets that could turn into actual flowers (nature’s original valentine, if you ask me), or cool art supplies that might actually survive longer than a conversation heart. Even stickers—because show me a kid who doesn’t immediately slap those bad boys on their water bottle and wear it like a badge of honor.

The secret sauce here is picking stuff that kids will actually use instead of things that’ll end up in the trash faster than you can say “Be Mine.” A fresh pencil for all that homework they’re definitely excited about? Practical magic. A bookmark? Chef’s kiss.

At the end of the day, Valentine’s Day in elementary school should be about kids feeling the joy of friendship and giving—not about parents having an existential crisis while picking tiny pieces of glitter out of their carpet at midnight. And if we can teach our kids to spread love in a way that doesn’t involve a sugar crash or contributing to the Pacific garbage patch? That’s what I call a parenting win.

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Skip the sugar this year and try these non-candy Valentine ideas instead.

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Scratch n' Sniff Bookmarks

$6.99

With scents like waffles, lattes, and cheese burgers, these scratch and sniff Valentine bookmarks might make them a little hungry during silent reading time.

Stanley Cup Valentines

Anner Lily

Water bottle Valentine Cards

$22.99

Is there a more suitable style for an “aesthetic” tween? I think not. These Stanley-inspired valentines come with 250 stickers to dole out along with the cards as well as clear gift bags to assemble them in. The fun part is figuring out which styles best represent each of their recipients.

Playhouse Heart Eyes Punch Out Glasses

Playhouse

Heart Eyes Punch Out Glasses Valentines

$15.79

What’s better than a plain old card? A card that’s actually a pair of glasses! The pop-out design is made of just paper and cellophane with space to sign their name and address it to their friends.

Kangaroo Flying Paper Airplanes Valentines Cards

Kangaroo

Flying Paper Airplanes Valentines Cards

$14.95

Paper planes make an easy transition to Valentine’s card with these punch out origami greetings. The collection includes four colorful designs which are easy to fold and envelopes to slip them into.

Playhouse Scratch Art Butterfly Valentine Cards

Playhouse

Scratch Art Butterfly Valentine Cards

$15.79

These sweet scratch art butterfly cards each come with a wooden stylus so kids can create their own unique look.

Valentines Day Gemstones

Deerher

Valentines Day Gemstones

$24.99

If the amount of unremarkable rocks I’ve found in kids’ coat pockets over the years are any indication, these crystal heart rocks are guaranteed to be a crowd-pleaser. Each of the pre-filled cards features facts about the stone on the back so they can get a teeny geology lesson as well.

Valentines Chalk Set

Valentines Chalk Set

$37.99

Given the amount of sidewalk chalk kids can go through, these cute little chalk sets make a useful gift. The package comes with 24 cards and gift bags as well as six colors of chalk to stash in each.

Valentine's Day Wildflower Seed Cards

Kasea Studio

Valentine's Day Wildflower Seed Cards

$29.95

Sweet and sustainable, these handmade cards include their own paper seed heart. With a little time, a little water and a bit of love, they’ll sprout into a colorful patch of wildflowers!

Courtunario Crayon Valentines

Courtunario

Crayon Valentines

$21.99

Art supplies are always a great idea for classroom treats–and none are more Valentine’s Day appropriate than these multi-colored heart crayons. They even come with cards and double-sided tape to take care of everything in one go.

Valentines Day cards 32 count

32-Count Scented Food-Related Valentines Day Cards

$7.99

OK, so if food isn’t allowed for the Valentine’s Day party at school, how about passing out these adorable Valentines that look yummy and smell delicious? These scratch-and-sniff cards and stickers come in all sorts of fun and “sweet” shapes and designs, making them the perfect alternative to candy Valentines. (Full disclosure, the stickers come in a sheet that need to be cut out.)

Inklings Paperie Paint With Water Valentines

Inklings Paperie

Paint With Water Valentines

$24

Maybe it’s the Lisa Frank vibes, maybe it’s the fact they’re designed by the sweetest all-woman team in Michigan, but we just adore these paint-with-water Valentine cards. The package comes with 24 cards and painting tools to create their own miniature masterpiece.

sticker craft sheet

60 Sheets – Valentines Sticker Crafts

$13.99

Kids love stickers and kids love crafts. These individual sticker sheets provide a quick craft activity: Make the face of a fox or a llama or even a gnome! Their hands will be busy for a minute or two and they’ll have a cute creation to take home.

Wiki Stix

Wikki Stix-15 packs of 12

$16.89

The bendable, reusable, and mess-free Wikki Sticks are like a fidget and a craft all in one. Made from food-grade wax and knitting yarn, they stick to paper and other smooth surfaces so kids can create and create again. Each of these party favor packs include 12 sticks of various colors as well as an activity sheet to give them some inspiration.

metallic glitter markers

TWOHANDS Metallic Glitter Markers

$9.99

Bright and fun metallic glitter pens? Yes please. (For adults or kids!) If you’re filling goodie bags for your child’s class, you can toss one or two of these fancy pens in each one and you’ll probably be labeled coolest parent ever.

Valentines Day pencils

28-Pack Valentines Day Heart Shaped Pencils

$20.99

Why write with a regular pencil when you can write with a cool heart-shaped one? These Valentine’s Day themed pencils are a great alternative gift if candy and chocolate are a no-go. Every kid needs a pencil!

A version of this story was published December 31, 2022. It has been updated.