Catherine Pearlman

Catherine Pearlman, PhD, LCSW is the author of Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction, which is available now from TarcherPerigee. She's also the founder of The Family Coach and an assistant professor at Brandman University. Follow Catherine on Facebook and Twitter.

Want to win parenting? 3 behaviors to ignore—and 4 to reinforce instead

2. Kindness. Catch your kids being kind, thoughtful or compassionate and reward them with your attention and praise.