25 positive phrases to say to your kids at bedtime

As any parent knows, bedtime is a sacred ritual that, yes, squeezes out the last dregs of patience and calm you have left for the day, but also, if you time it right, can serve as a golden opportunity for connecting with your child. 

Helping them wind down takes work, for sure, but it’s also a chance for connection Those moments just before they drift off to dreamland are the perfect time to share a positive statement, words of affirmation or other assurances to help your little one understand the power of your love and the strength of your bond. In short, you’re letting them know that they matter, and that you see them. Keep it short and sweet—we’re talking a one-liner you can leave them with as their little lids start to droop. 

Here are our favorite ways to foster connection and create a nurturing atmosphere for your child right before going to bed. 

25 things to say to your kids at bedtime

Whether you go for an affirmation, an acknowledgement, a reinforcement or an encouragement, there are lots of little ways to show you care. 

1. “I’m so glad I got to spend today with you.”
2. “You are so special to me.”
3. “I love hearing about your day.”
4. “I’m here for you, no matter what.”
5. “Your thoughts and feelings are important to me.”
6. “You make me smile every day.”
7. “I’m so proud of how hard you try.”
8. “You have wonderful ideas.”
9. “I love everything about you.”
10. “You can do amazing things.”
11. “You bring so much joy to our family.”
12. “You’re a great friend/sibling.”
13. “Remember, it’s OK to make mistakes; that’s how we learn.”
14. “I’m so excited to see what you’ll do tomorrow.”
15. “I loved our day together.”
16. “You’re a very thoughtful person.”
17. “You have such a kind heart.”
18. “I’m always here to listen to you.”
19. “All of your feelings matter.”
20. “You are strong and brave.”
21. “I’m grateful for you every day.”
22. “You make every day special.”
23. “You are loved more than you can imagine.”
24. “You can achieve anything you set your mind to.”
25. “I’m looking forward to another wonderful day with you tomorrow.”

Using these phrases can create a nurturing environment at bedtime that helps your child feel valued, understood and connected—all by showing that you notice them, and how much they matter to you.

A version of this story was originally published on Dec. 26, 2023. It has been updated.